It’s time for another coffee date while we dive into the next topic of your wedding planning! And as promised, it’s all about the fun stuff. Generally speaking, how to pick and choose the fun & decorative details to make sure that your personality comes through on your wedding day.
First, it’s important to pinpoint what YOUR particular style is.
Do you like clean lines or messy ones? Bright colors or neutrals? Classy or casual? This can generally be decided by looking around you: what do you surround yourself with in your room, home, or office; what decor draws your eye; what setting gives you that peaceful, “I’m in my element” feel; or what’s your favorite color? It’s actually fun to grab some items that draw your eye and put them together to see what they look like. And jot these thoughts down. Give it a day then look back over your notes and try combining your favorites. Try to think of how you can take a few of those things and mesh them together. It helps to peek on Pinterest or catalogs and peruse through other wedding ideas, certainly. But it helps to know first what YOU like so that you don’t get lost in all of the ideas that are out there.
The DATE & TIME will help determine your themes.
Utilize the tones of the season to help determine the feel of your day. For instance, a morning wedding in the spring suggests brunch, pastels, and delicate floral. While a evening wedding in the summer suggests lunch or dessert, vibrant colors or whites, and wild or exotic flowers. Warm tones, rustic accents, and apple pies make you think of fall. Greenery, jewel tones, and hot cocoa makes it feel like winter.
Now, a quick word on the VENUE.
Now, venue is a whole conversation on it’s own–which we will be having soon. But I wanted to bring it up now because venue can be one of the main facets to showcase your style. A barn is warm & rustic, a church is classic & formal, a renovated warehouse is industrial & modern, on and on it goes. Consider the venue choice your foundation for other stylistic choices: decor, formality, etc.
This also depends on availability and budget, obviously. So if you can’t afford your dream venue and instead rent a hall or gym, don’t feel like it has to be lesser. You have so many other ways to brand your wedding through décor, so get creative and make that gym work for you!
Style also decides how FORMAL your wedding might be.
You can make any kind of venue or color scheme upscale or casual. What mostly determines the level of formality involved with your wedding is the attire, the things that you choose to do on your day, and even the type of decorations.
Our ceremony was meant to be sentimental, meaningful, and sincere in a casual, personal, rustic setting. So we chose to have the ceremony outdoors on a summer evening. The wedding party wore their own mint & peach sundresses and the groomsmen wore suspenders and crazy socks. The reception was all about having fun. I wanted to blend some traditional rituals with a new style of wedding that didn’t require my guests to give up half of their day. No waiting for wedding party photos or long dinners–right from the ceremony to the dessert and dancing! I’m not saying it’s for everyone–but we had a blast! Determine what’s important to you about your wedding day, what qualities you want to pursue and the rest will follow.
Your COLORS are a natural overflow from your style choices.
The great thing is, you can truly do just about anything and get away with it when tastefully balanced. So no pressure here.
Before you decide, know that you can base color schemes off a season but I recommend using a favorite color or palette because that will be what you truly love in the end.
I will say that as much as I love navy/grey and yellow or any other popular wedding palette, it’s a little overdone. I can’t say too much, after choosing mint/peach/neutrals for my wedding colors they announced it as the official 2013 wedding colors. But even with the overdone colors–there is a reason that they are “overdone.” They look great together! So if that’s what really floats your boat–go for it!
In my case, I loved so many colors and palettes that I had a hard time choosing. I’m more of a admirer of many colors rather than committing to one favorite, although with a gun to my head I would probably choose green. So I went to Lowes and scoured their paint chip section–every color palette that is appealing to the eye is there, and they’re free for the taking. I realized that I was buying an excessive amount of mint things and adoring peach hues, so I put the two together and *light bulb moment.*
*Side note* I will say, not all colors look the best for a wedding so if you’re conflicted between two favorites that look better on a football jersey than a wedding party, you don’t have to make it mesh. Pick one favorite and find other coordinating colors to pair it with OR find other shades of your favorites that may match better.
Once I narrowed it down, I cut and pasted my favorite colors and fabric swaps onto one piece of paper, slapped in my notebook, and based the rest of my color themed decisions off of that. It was very helpful to show to the florist and anyone else who may need to know–because unfortunately they can’t telepathically visualize what I want.
Just so you’re in the know, here is a palette of this year’s popular colors.
The current trend with weddings is all about EXPRESSING YOURSELF.
The rules and guidelines aren’t typically required anymore. Back in the day, weddings were mostly standard–with specific rules and etiquette for how & when to do things. In a way, it’s easier because everyone could share their weddings things and it all matched, much less strain on the nerves. But on the other hand, there’s no imagination or creativity in that. So take advantage of the trend and understand that you really can’t go wrong if you’re just being you, after all, it’s your day to enjoy and remember anyway.
Again, have fun with this! You’ll only get married once (hopefully) and why not make these things as fun and stress-free as possible!